Everyone hopes their wedding day will run smoothly but unfortunately awkward guests, outdated traditions, gift lists and family feuds will cause a few headaches...
I will be running through these little problems one at a time...
Years ago it was the done thing but many women no longer want to take their husband's surname and are opting to keep their own or going for a "Double Barrel" surname or even joining the surnames and having something unique.
Jones, Smith could be Joith
Personally for me it would depend on the surname...
Garden or House and I would sound like an address.
Do you think some traditions are worth keeping?
-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 21st of June 2022 06:42:35 AM
Syl said
Jun 21 12:08 PM, 2022
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Maddog said
Jun 21 5:47 PM, 2022
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉
Syl said
Jun 21 7:24 PM, 2022
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉
Which proves the point.
Magica said
Jun 21 8:24 PM, 2022
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉
Vita said
Jun 22 1:23 AM, 2022
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?
Maddog said
Jun 22 4:37 AM, 2022
Vita wrote:
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?
My daughters sorta had a no kid policy for their weddings.
But those were first (and hopefully last) weddings.
Second weddings (and many first) often blend families that already have kids, so it's a bit different affair.
Vita said
Jun 22 8:18 AM, 2022
Maddog wrote:
Vita wrote:
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?
My daughters sorta had a no kid policy for their weddings.
But those were first (and hopefully last) weddings.
Second weddings (and many first) often blend families that already have kids, so it's a bit different affair.
That's true Madders.
Of course you could get round the problem and have a long engagement until the child/children are adults.
My brother's Fiancee has a daughter, she was at school when they met and now she's working.
I was hoping to be a bridesmaid, I'll be going up the aisle with a zimmer at this rate.
Vita said
Jun 22 8:25 AM, 2022
Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.
We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.
I was two...
My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.
However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!
My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂
Magica said
Jun 22 5:07 PM, 2022
Vita wrote:
Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.
We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.
I was two...
My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.
However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!
My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂
I can just picture that
Anonymous said
Jun 23 5:44 PM, 2022
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.
Digger said
Jun 24 9:33 AM, 2022
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.
Are you sorting yourself out? I hope so. Particularly for the person who is trying so hard to help you.
Magica said
Jun 24 6:56 PM, 2022
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.
Hey, take care JD x
Vita said
Jun 28 8:37 AM, 2022
Magica wrote:
Vita wrote:
Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.
We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.
I was two...
My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.
However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!
My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂
I can just picture that
There's a cine video of that wedding Mags.
You see me and my brother arriving at the church, he's six and I'm two.
Then there's me dancing with my Granda at the reception, it's lovely to watch.
Vita said
Jun 28 8:49 AM, 2022
Presents...
Most couples live together before they get married these days so the problem is...what to do about presents.
Do they ask for money and that leaves the guests with the problem of how much.
Too little, a tight arse. Too much, a show off.
A gift list, do you think that's a bit cheeky or do you just buy/ give what you want.
Vita said
Jun 28 8:52 AM, 2022
By the way...
Do you have a show of presents in England?
A week or so before the wedding here the female guest's are invited to a night of wine and nibbles at the bride's house to admire the gifts.
Vita said
Jun 28 9:46 AM, 2022
My parents signing the register. There's a problem with this photo that my mother has hated all her married life. Nobody bothered to move the Minister's ashtray out the way before it was tooken. 😂
-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 28th of June 2022 09:49:45 AM
My parents signing the register. There's a problem with this photo that my mother has hated all her married life. Nobody bothered to move the Minister's ashtray out the way before it was tooken. 😂
-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 28th of June 2022 09:49:45 AM
Your dad has a look of George Harrison!
Syl said
Jun 28 12:29 PM, 2022
I can see the George Harrison resemblance too.
That's a lovely pic Vita, though I agree with your mum about the ashtray.
Everyone hopes their wedding day will run smoothly but unfortunately awkward guests, outdated traditions, gift lists and family feuds will cause a few headaches...
I will be running through these little problems one at a time...
Outdated traditions...
Years ago it was the done thing but many women no longer want to take their husband's surname and are opting to keep their own or going for a "Double Barrel" surname or even joining the surnames and having something unique.
Jones, Smith could be Joith
Personally for me it would depend on the surname...
Garden or House and I would sound like an address.
Do you think some traditions are worth keeping?
-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 21st of June 2022 06:42:35 AM
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉
Which proves the point.
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?
My daughters sorta had a no kid policy for their weddings.
But those were first (and hopefully last) weddings.
Second weddings (and many first) often blend families that already have kids, so it's a bit different affair.
That's true Madders.
Of course you could get round the problem and have a long engagement until the child/children are adults.
My brother's Fiancee has a daughter, she was at school when they met and now she's working.
I was hoping to be a bridesmaid, I'll be going up the aisle with a zimmer at this rate.
We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.
I was two...
My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.
However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!
My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.
Are you sorting yourself out? I hope so. Particularly for the person who is trying so hard to help you.
Hey, take care JD x
There's a cine video of that wedding Mags.
You see me and my brother arriving at the church, he's six and I'm two.
Then there's me dancing with my Granda at the reception, it's lovely to watch.
Presents...
Most couples live together before they get married these days so the problem is...what to do about presents.
Do they ask for money and that leaves the guests with the problem of how much.
Too little, a tight arse. Too much, a show off.
A gift list, do you think that's a bit cheeky or do you just buy/ give what you want.
Do you have a show of presents in England?
A week or so before the wedding here the female guest's are invited to a night of wine and nibbles at the bride's house to admire the gifts.
My parents signing the register. There's a problem with this photo that my mother has hated all her married life. Nobody bothered to move the Minister's ashtray out the way before it was tooken. 😂
-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 28th of June 2022 09:49:45 AM
Your dad has a look of George Harrison!
That's a lovely pic Vita, though I agree with your mum about the ashtray.