I don't really use any of those. I'm a fuck off, you arsehole, kinda gal.
I think you have to give people a chance.
My yardstick is resentment, as soon as I feel resentful that someone is taking a lot more than they are giving, I have no qualms in finishing a relationship, and once finished, that's it.
Yep. One might not say fuck off you arsehole and don't come back but one certainly thinks it.
One often does.
Fluffy said
Jul 3 1:34 AM, 2025
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
Magica said
Jul 3 11:22 AM, 2025
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
I suppose 6. I am who I am, but I do apologise if I'm in the wrong.
Vam said
Jul 4 11:36 AM, 2025
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
I would - and do!
The moment when I realise the person I’m trying to reason with just ain’t wired right, and is beyond reasoning with, ‘Not my problem‘ is my go-to default setting.
Vam said
Jul 4 11:54 AM, 2025
Magica wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
I suppose 6. I am who I am, but I do apologise if I'm in the wrong.
Yep, ditto me.
So you and me are clearly not ‘deeply selfish people’ (in the title of that article)
Syl said
Jul 4 12:58 PM, 2025
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
Do men ever really understand women?
I think we think in a completely different plane, ie, a higher one. Men can be pretty basic in their thinking when it comes to females.
Fluffy said
Jul 4 4:11 PM, 2025
Vam wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
I would - and do!
The moment when I realise the person I’m trying to reason with just ain’t wired right, and is beyond reasoning with, ‘Not my problem‘ is my go-to default setting.
Oh yes in those circumstances it's not rude at all. I meant when dealing with loved ones and people I know, I probably wouldn't say that phrase because I wouldn't appreciate to hear it back.
But if someone is not an individual you know well and happens to be an epic tit I think it's not just an apt phrase but required!
Vam said
Jul 4 4:18 PM, 2025
“an epic tit…”
Fluffy said
Jul 4 4:20 PM, 2025
Syl wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
Do men ever really understand women?
I think we think in a completely different plane, ie, a higher one. Men can be pretty basic in their thinking when it comes to females.
They think totally differently. They lack imagination. As you say, women are more complex and more heartfelt in their thinking and in a commercial society this is seen as 'wasting time' or 'being sensitive '. Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity imho of course.
Obviously some men are both logical and sensitive in their thinking, but not many. The role models for young men these days considers any type of empathy as a show of weakness which is a shame.
Fluffy said
Jul 4 4:21 PM, 2025
Vam wrote:
“an epic tit…”
Your avi inspired me!
Syl said
Jul 4 4:33 PM, 2025
Fluffy wrote:
Syl wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
Do men ever really understand women?
I think we think in a completely different plane, ie, a higher one. Men can be pretty basic in their thinking when it comes to females.
They think totally differently. They lack imagination. As you say, women are more complex and more heartfelt in their thinking and in a commercial society this is seen as 'wasting time' or 'being sensitive '. Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity imho of course.
Obviously some men are both logical and sensitive in their thinking, but not many. The role models for young men these days considers any type of empathy as a show of weakness which is a shame.
I actually worry about the role models some young men aspire to nowadays.
Black rappers who lead immoral illegal lifestyles, or AI generated superheroes.
Their view of women is generated by porn star images, and no doubt they think that's the way women like to be treated too. The internet has a lot to answer for.
I know millions of young men have grounded families who are their main influence, but a % don't....and they are the ones to worry about.
Fluffy said
Jul 4 5:20 PM, 2025
Syl wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Syl wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Vam wrote:
Which of these, if any, have you been known to say?
🤷🏻♀️ Personally, I see no problem with #1 (but not if it means refusing to help out someone in need).
Definitely no prob with #5 either! 😂
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me. I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
Do men ever really understand women?
I think we think in a completely different plane, ie, a higher one. Men can be pretty basic in their thinking when it comes to females.
They think totally differently. They lack imagination. As you say, women are more complex and more heartfelt in their thinking and in a commercial society this is seen as 'wasting time' or 'being sensitive '. Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity imho of course.
Obviously some men are both logical and sensitive in their thinking, but not many. The role models for young men these days considers any type of empathy as a show of weakness which is a shame.
I actually worry about the role models some young men aspire to nowadays.
Black rappers who lead immoral illegal lifestyles, or AI generated superheroes.
Their view of women is generated by porn star images, and no doubt they think that's the way women like to be treated too. The internet has a lot to answer for.
I know millions of young men have grounded families who are their main influence, but a % don't....and they are the ones to worry about.
Trump actually being taken seriously as a politician is another result of the mentality you are talking about. Frankly we live in very misogynistic times. The only drama to highlight the problem was "Adolescence" and as good as it was, it's been pretty much forgotten now whilst the Manosphere continues to poison the minds of teenage boys and young men. Women continue to be mature adults whilst men retreat into more fantasist worlds and behaviours. The creation of the female AI sex doll is now the most anticipated thing by such men who they believe(or hope) will replace real women. However most men claim they don't require or want these female doll's to talk, just be..available. The majority of male influencers are not interested in the opinions of women, in fact they find women speaking disdainful.
Sorry Syl, I'm being a doom merchant on every thread..! I will try to lighten up. But you are certainly right, society and the mentality of men is very concerning right now.
Syl said
Jul 4 5:40 PM, 2025
Don't be sorry, your opinions are as valid as anyone else, but tbh, sometimes we can get bogged down with all the doom and gloom news that's shoved in our faces.
A good grounding though is to look around you, at your own family and friends, and often what we see there is at odds with what we read about.
Anonymous said
Jul 5 8:29 AM, 2025
Fluffy wrote:
Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
Fluffy said
Jul 5 11:38 AM, 2025
Syl wrote:
Don't be sorry, your opinions are as valid as anyone else, but tbh, sometimes we can get bogged down with all the doom and gloom news that's shoved in our faces.
A good grounding though is to look around you, at your own family and friends, and often what we see there is at odds with what we read about.
That's very true x I'm just glad my Dad isn't around to see the world as it is now, he was a gentle man and wouldn't be able to cope with how cruel it is now.
Syl said
Jul 5 12:10 PM, 2025
Anonymous wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
There will always be people who rise to the top in every field, and now women are given more opportunities, they can also excel in all of the above.
Emotionally, I think women still surpass men, and a bonus is we can also do two or three things at once, a talent many men don't posses.
Anonymous said
Jul 5 2:47 PM, 2025
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
There will always be people who rise to the top in every field, and now women are given more opportunities, they can also excel in all of the above.
Emotionally, I think women still surpass men, and a bonus is we can also do two or three things at once, a talent many men don't posses.
What two or three things do you do at the same time?
Syl said
Jul 5 5:42 PM, 2025
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
There will always be people who rise to the top in every field, and now women are given more opportunities, they can also excel in all of the above.
Emotionally, I think women still surpass men, and a bonus is we can also do two or three things at once, a talent many men don't posses.
What two or three things do you do at the same time?
Many, many things, women can multitask, men find it hard to hold a conversation and tie their shoes at the same time.
The very fact you need to ask, makes me think you must be male....bless.
Anonymous said
Jul 5 9:16 PM, 2025
Vam wrote:
“an epic tit…”
Is that Trump’s arse in your profile pic? Has he had a BBL.
Anonymous said
Jul 6 7:51 AM, 2025
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Fluffy wrote:
Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
There will always be people who rise to the top in every field, and now women are given more opportunities, they can also excel in all of the above.
Emotionally, I think women still surpass men, and a bonus is we can also do two or three things at once, a talent many men don't posses.
What two or three things do you do at the same time?
Many, many things, women can multitask, men find it hard to hold a conversation and tie their shoes at the same time.
The very fact you need to ask, makes me think you must be male....bless.
By many, many things, do you mean like walking and breathing at the same time, or picking your nose while you're watching TV, or is it something more complicated than that?
One often does.
#4, #9 and 10, definitely with my other half. Well, he DOESN'T understand me.
I think he considers himself lucky that he doesn't! I wouldn't say "That's not my problem" personally unless I was being a bit terse with someone. I don't think it's rude necessarily , it just depends on the person.
I suppose 6. I am who I am, but I do apologise if I'm in the wrong.
I would - and do!
The moment when I realise the person I’m trying to reason with just ain’t wired right, and is beyond reasoning with, ‘Not my problem‘ is my go-to default setting.
So you and me are clearly not ‘deeply selfish people’ (in the title of that article)
Do men ever really understand women?
I think we think in a completely different plane, ie, a higher one. Men can be pretty basic in their thinking when it comes to females.
Oh yes in those circumstances it's not rude at all. I meant when dealing with loved ones and people I know, I probably wouldn't say that phrase because I wouldn't appreciate to hear it back.
But if someone is not an individual you know well and happens to be an epic tit I think it's not just an apt phrase but required!
“an epic tit…”
They think totally differently. They lack imagination. As you say, women are more complex and more heartfelt in their thinking and in a commercial society this is seen as 'wasting time' or 'being sensitive '. Men are generally considered more straight forward and therefore superior but they just lack imagination and creativity imho of course.
Obviously some men are both logical and sensitive in their thinking, but not many. The role models for young men these days considers any type of empathy as a show of weakness which is a shame.
Your avi inspired me!
I actually worry about the role models some young men aspire to nowadays.
Black rappers who lead immoral illegal lifestyles, or AI generated superheroes.
Their view of women is generated by porn star images, and no doubt they think that's the way women like to be treated too. The internet has a lot to answer for.
I know millions of young men have grounded families who are their main influence, but a % don't....and they are the ones to worry about.
Trump actually being taken seriously as a politician is another result of the mentality you are talking about. Frankly we live in very misogynistic times. The only drama to highlight the problem was "Adolescence" and as good as it was, it's been pretty much forgotten now whilst the Manosphere continues to poison the minds of teenage boys and young men. Women continue to be mature adults whilst men retreat into more fantasist worlds and behaviours. The creation of the female AI sex doll is now the most anticipated thing by such men who they believe(or hope) will replace real women. However most men claim they don't require or want these female doll's to talk, just be..available. The majority of male influencers are not interested in the opinions of women, in fact they find women speaking disdainful.
Sorry Syl, I'm being a doom merchant on every thread..! I will try to lighten up. But you are certainly right, society and the mentality of men is very concerning right now.
A good grounding though is to look around you, at your own family and friends, and often what we see there is at odds with what we read about.
How about all the
philosophers
scientists
artists
poets
writers
architects
etc?
That's very true x I'm just glad my Dad isn't around to see the world as it is now, he was a gentle man and wouldn't be able to cope with how cruel it is now.
There will always be people who rise to the top in every field, and now women are given more opportunities, they can also excel in all of the above.
Emotionally, I think women still surpass men, and a bonus is we can also do two or three things at once, a talent many men don't posses.
What two or three things do you do at the same time?
Many, many things, women can multitask, men find it hard to hold a conversation and tie their shoes at the same time.
The very fact you need to ask, makes me think you must be male....bless.
Is that Trump’s arse in your profile pic?
Has he had a BBL.
By many, many things, do you mean like walking and breathing at the same time, or picking your nose while you're watching TV, or is it something more complicated than that?