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Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

A one night stand or unrequited love. (Blast from the past)

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

RE: A one night stand or unrequited love.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Which could you cope better with if your partner or yourself were to succumb?

I'm not sure what the question is. Which would I prefer? Or which would I prefer my partner did?

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Oh right....your partner is infatuated or in love with another, but nothing has or will happen.....or he has a random meaningless one night stand.

Which would you find easirer to deal with....and how would you deal with it!

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Oh right....your partner is infatuated or in love with another, but nothing has or will happen.....or he has a random meaningless one night stand.

Which would you find easirer to deal with....and how would you deal with it!

Show him door.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Everyone says that.

I know women (and men) who say that, then it happens, and it's not that cut and dried.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

My opinion is I would not want to be with anyone who loved someone else, no matter if the relationship had never been consummated....I would be off.

A one night stand is more difficult ...would I give up 45 years of love and togetherness for a stupid mistake???

Easy to say .....but I think I would.

smithy · 1000 Posts!?

I would go for the one night stand.

Sex is sex but love is a very different matter.

NN · Musing at the Chaos

Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

BackGammon · Burning up the forum

Hello ladies, unrequited love is my lot in life although I did notice Binny said she quite liked me despite my back tits.

One night stands are pretty rubbish I simply don't have the pulling power any more.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

NN wrote:
Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

I hate to say it, but I am a bit of a grudge holder on certain things.

I can remember word for word arguments we had decades ago...…..it's not a nice gift to have really.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

BackGammon wrote:
Hello ladies, unrequited love is my lot in life although I did notice Binny said she quite liked me despite my back tits.
One night stands are pretty rubbish I simply don't have the pulling power any more.

You always have the internet BG....and your back tits to keep you warm at night.

JP · Burning up the forum

Women and their elephant like memories. A thing of nightmares for men.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

JP wrote:
Women and their elephant like memories. A thing of nightmares for men.

It's definately a female thing.

John Doe · Still Here!

If you are single then unrequited love is one of life's great sweet miseries, for those who are married or with long term partners a one night stand would be incredibly hurtful but I think after decades together it would possibly be recoverable for people who have spent their lives together.

Once and once only though (for either sex).

But I am probably talking bollocks!

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

John Doe wrote:
If you are single then unrequited love is one of life's great sweet miseries, for those who are married or with long term partners a one night stand would be incredibly hurtful but I think after decades together it would possibly be recoverable for people who have spent their lives together.

Once and once only though (for either sex).

But I am probably talking bollocks!

Not bollox at all JD.

I know couples who have put up with the odd 'error of judgment'. When people have invested many years into a relationship, built up a family together, a home, a life, I can understand why they do.

I know others where it's ruined the relationship though, every one night stand must involve a lot of lying, and once people start lying to each other, trust and respect must go out the window.

NN · Musing at the Chaos

Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

I hate to say it, but I am a bit of a grudge holder on certain things.
I can remember word for word arguments we had decades ago...…..it's not a nice gift to have really.

It’s a curse, isn’t it.

We went to the races in a big group quite a few years ago, set off at like 10am. His little brother came and they started drinking at 10am. hes suggested going to the races every year since then and I’m like “nope. No way am I repeating that disaster”. He promises he won’t do it again but I can’t let it go

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

NN wrote:
Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

I hate to say it, but I am a bit of a grudge holder on certain things.
I can remember word for word arguments we had decades ago...…..it's not a nice gift to have really.
It’s a curse, isn’t it.
We went to the races in a big group quite a few years ago, set off at like 10am. His little brother came and they started drinking at 10am. hes suggested going to the races every year since then and I’m like “nope. No way am I repeating that disaster”. He promises he won’t do it again but I can’t let it go

I think that's pretty reasonable really.

Can you even remember what you were wearing when you had a certain big row....I can.

I have a friend who goes much further than we do though. She can have a dream where her husband has done something wrong, she wakes up in a bad mood, and cant stand to talk to him for the rest of the day....now that IS extreme.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

I hate to say it, but I am a bit of a grudge holder on certain things.
I can remember word for word arguments we had decades ago...…..it's not a nice gift to have really.
It’s a curse, isn’t it.
We went to the races in a big group quite a few years ago, set off at like 10am. His little brother came and they started drinking at 10am. hes suggested going to the races every year since then and I’m like “nope. No way am I repeating that disaster”. He promises he won’t do it again but I can’t let it go
I think that's pretty reasonable really.
Can you even remember what you were wearing when you had a certain big row....I can.
I have a friend who goes much further than we do though. She can have a dream where her husband has done something wrong, she wakes up in a bad mood, and cant stand to talk to him for the rest of the day....now that IS extreme.

I had a dream like that once years ago. I dreamed my husband cheated on me. I woke up and was like....."Don't fucking TOUCH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

NN · Musing at the Chaos

Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Syl wrote:
NN wrote:
Random, meaningless, one night stand.

But then I think, why would you chuck everything away for just that? Was it worth so little to begin with?

I’m a hard faced bitch though. Once I make a decision I stick to it, and I don’t see ever being able to come back from that. I hold a grudge like a arse, and I know I’d never be able to forget it.
I still resent him for an argument we had 3 years ago. Poor sod

I hate to say it, but I am a bit of a grudge holder on certain things.
I can remember word for word arguments we had decades ago...…..it's not a nice gift to have really.
It’s a curse, isn’t it.
We went to the races in a big group quite a few years ago, set off at like 10am. His little brother came and they started drinking at 10am. hes suggested going to the races every year since then and I’m like “nope. No way am I repeating that disaster”. He promises he won’t do it again but I can’t let it go
I think that's pretty reasonable really.
Can you even remember what you were wearing when you had a certain big row....I can.
I have a friend who goes much further than we do though. She can have a dream where her husband has done something wrong, she wakes up in a bad mood, and cant stand to talk to him for the rest of the day....now that IS extreme.
I had a dream like that once years ago. I dreamed my husband cheated on me. I woke up and was like....."Don't fucking TOUCH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

How long did it take you to get over it?