ChaoticMusings

Digger wrote:

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John Doe wrote:

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Digger wrote:

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BackGammon wrote:

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Syl wrote:

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I read that too. If anyone feels they have no choice other than prostitute themselves out just to pay the bills, in a so called wealthy developed country...words fail.

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 I know some women have had to do it in the past but the scale of it now is unreal. Food banks, prostitution, broken Britain.

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 I've told this story before, but  I had a client who was a prostitute.  Her house was like a fucking palace.  She was loaded.  She ran a brothel in Oldham.   And she wasn't unhappy doing it either.  Said it was easier than a 9 to 5.   Her mate showed up as I was doing her nails (in my nail tech days) and started chatting about her own clients, and what laugh she had.   There was nothing reluctant about either of them.  They tried to get me to do it and I was like....I won't even go topless on the beach..fuck off!

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 Shit! 

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 That was when I was younger too.   I've never been into going topless...not even when I was teenager and it was the done thing for all teenagers to do.  Odd considering I used to prance around in a skimpy outfit  for a living.

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 Yes but the costumes were not that skimpy really, at least from what I have seen there is far less flesh on show than a lot of women on a weekend night out.

I have been looking through some old threads in the now defunct 'Agony section'...some are quite amusing, so far not been seen in Whine, so I have opened it up in here.
Also, seeing names of some of the old posters brings back memories too.

By all means add any comments if you wish to.

Digger wrote:

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Syl wrote:

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Oh right....your partner is infatuated or in love with another, but nothing has or will happen.....or he has a random meaningless one night stand.

Which would you find easirer to deal with....and how would you deal with it!

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 Show him door.   

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🎯 Pretty much that - on both counts 

(Sorry, Syl  )

 

Syl wrote:

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 Don't be sorry, I am all for a bit of girl power. 

 

I worked with a woman once, 50ish, always ill with minor ailments, she was forevergoing to the Dr's, (this was back when you could actually get an appointment) Anyway, he was either at his wits end with her, or very astute, but he asked her about her marriage, which wasn't a very happy one. He actually told her that in his opinion, her unhappy marriage was affecting her health, if she got rid of her husband she would likely get rid of her ailments.

 

So she did....and it worked.

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😂 I love your stories, and that makes perfect sense to me.

Why stay with someone who psychologically drains you and drags you down? Get TF out if you can!

Syl wrote:

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Vam wrote:

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Digger wrote:

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Syl wrote:

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Oh right....your partner is infatuated or in love with another, but nothing has or will happen.....or he has a random meaningless one night stand.

Which would you find easirer to deal with....and how would you deal with it!

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 Show him door.   

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🎯 Pretty much that - on both counts 

(Sorry, Syl  )

 

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 Don't be sorry, I am all for a bit of girl power. 

 

I worked with a woman once, 50ish, always ill with minor ailments, she was forevergoing to the Dr's, (this was back when you could actually get an appointment) Anyway, he was either at his wits end with her, or very astute, but he asked her about her marriage, which wasn't a very happy one. He actually told her that in his opinion, her unhappy marriage was affecting her health, if she got rid of her husband she would likely get rid of her ailments.

 

So she did....and it worked.

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 Yes, her husband was her ailment. I can imagine that. Maybe she felt weary, drained and unheard.

Wives do a lot for husbands generally( or at least they used to)and that's why married men are currently the happiest demographic yet single women are happier than  married one's.Married women cook breakfast ,lunch, dinner, clean, dust, hoover, wash dishes, polish,,get the shopping,put the shopping away, tidy up, manage finances,lend a sympathetic ear, boost her husband's confidence, be intimate sexually and emotionally. 

Sometimes even a woman needs  a wife. 

As for the original question the two scenarios are unforgivable imo in different ways. My OH being in love with another woman would shatter me. A one night stand would anger and hurt me. I can't say which is worse because both are huge betrayals on different levels. I might have forgiven a one night stand when I was younger but not now. And it would never leave my mind.

So if either happened yes I would show him the door. 

 

Fluffy wrote:

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Syl wrote:

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Vam wrote:

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Digger wrote:

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Syl wrote:

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Oh right....your partner is infatuated or in love with another, but nothing has or will happen.....or he has a random meaningless one night stand.

Which would you find easirer to deal with....and how would you deal with it!

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 Show him door.   

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🎯 Pretty much that - on both counts 

(Sorry, Syl  )

 

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 Don't be sorry, I am all for a bit of girl power. 

 

I worked with a woman once, 50ish, always ill with minor ailments, she was forevergoing to the Dr's, (this was back when you could actually get an appointment) Anyway, he was either at his wits end with her, or very astute, but he asked her about her marriage, which wasn't a very happy one. He actually told her that in his opinion, her unhappy marriage was affecting her health, if she got rid of her husband she would likely get rid of her ailments.

 

So she did....and it worked.

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 Yes, her husband was her ailment. I can imagine that. Maybe she felt weary, drained and unheard.

Wives do a lot for husbands generally( or at least they used to)and that's why married men are currently the happiest demographic yet single women are happier than  married one's.Married women cook breakfast ,lunch, dinner, clean, dust, hoover, wash dishes, polish,,get the shopping,put the shopping away, tidy up, manage finances,lend a sympathetic ear, boost her husband's confidence, be intimate sexually and emotionally. 

Sometimes even a woman needs  a wife. 

As for the original question the two scenarios are unforgivable imo in different ways. My OH being in love with another woman would shatter me. A one night stand would anger and hurt me. I can't say which is worse because both are huge betrayals on different levels. I might have forgiven a one night stand when I was younger but not now. And it would never leave my mind.

So if either happened yes I would show him the door. 

 

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 "Sometimes even a woman needs  a wife." 

 I  like that comment.

I'm not sure that's as applicable nowadays with so-called equality, but generally, it's certainly much fairer than it was a couple of generations ago. 

One thing I have noticed with the older generation of married couples (being one myself) so many men of retirement age are miserable buggers...I have friends and relatives, who when they hit 60 plus, the woman is still vibrant and ready to take on new challenges....the man is happy to 'potter'. 

Thankfully my OH isn't like that, so whilst we still have the health and strength to get out and about and enjoy life, we do. But it's not the case for everyone.

One of my closest friends had little in common with her husband after the kids left home. They stayed together and tolerated each other, but their relationship was distant. She always said if he died she would manage very well without him.

He died in his 60's....she has had more holidays and trips abroad in the few years since than she had in the 40 odd years they were married. She has definately thrived without him.