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Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Why in 2021 are women still afraid to walk alone at night?

Date: Mar 13 3:09 PM, 2021

Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
John Doe wrote:
Perhaps nothing can ever be done - we evolved into the most savage apex predator the world has ever seen after all.
Those violent and predatory sexual instincts are never very far from the surface in certain people even though the vast majority of us are good.

Please stop putting yourself as one of the good ones. You talk disgustedly about women and turn everything they say into something suggestive, you pester them via PM and turn nasty when they reject you, you even put disgusting photos on here that degrade women. Just because you do not actually rape women it does not mean you are one of the good guys!
As far as I know...and I am sure I would know, no one has pestered anyone (in this forum) via pm and then turned nasty if they have been rejected. Humour is subjective The Carry on, Benny Hill type of humour is not very pc, but imo it's harmless.
On a couple of occasions , one very recently, a degrading photo has been removed, and I agree 100% about the sexist language aimed at women.
One man calls a woman a bitch and far worse, and others reading it can be influenced. In my world it's not acceptable, but on a forum, any forum, unless free speech is clamped down on, it is.

It's not harmless though. There is a reason its no longer used on TV or films. it puts women in an uncomfortable position, the men who do it all the time are the same men who tell women they are humourless bitches when they object or don't laugh.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

I don't agree.
To me there is a huge difference between women being chased around to fast music, where incidentally the man usually ends up being the butt of the joke, to calling women derogatory sexist names, which is almost always said in either a nasty or lascivious way.

Date: Mar 13 4:26 PM, 2021

Does anyone think the death of Sarah Everard is going to be presented as a George Floyd moment for social change in Britain in the same way Premier League Footballers are still taking the knee as some symbolic move to end white on black racism in England?

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Anonymous wrote:
Does anyone think the death of Sarah Everard is going to be presented as a George Floyd moment for social change in Britain in the same way Premier League Footballers are still taking the knee as some symbolic move to end white on black racism in England?

It could do, it's certainly aroused a lot of passion and suppressed anger.

Like every black person has a story to tell about some sort of discrimination they have suffered, every woman will have stories to tell about when they have been sexually harassed or worse.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Anonymous wrote:
Does anyone think the death of Sarah Everard is going to be presented as a George Floyd moment for social change in Britain in the same way Premier League Footballers are still taking the knee as some symbolic move to end white on black racism in England?

And if it does...what form of symbolic move do you think would be appropriate.

Date: Mar 13 5:21 PM, 2021

Syl wrote:
I don't agree.
To me there is a huge difference between women being chased around to fast music, where incidentally the man usually ends up being the butt of the joke, to calling women derogatory sexist names, which is almost always said in either a nasty or lascivious way.

the post was about someone turning everything into innuendo, you called that benny hill humour. I don't class that as benny hill humour

you are having a serious discussion on a forum and someone keeps trying to turn it into innuendo, very annoying, imagine being alone somewhere with a man who did the same, cant you not see how that would feel intimidating? people have asked him to stop and he doesn't which shows disrespect for those women.

John Doe · Still Here!

Anonymous wrote:
John Doe wrote:
Perhaps nothing can ever be done - we evolved into the most savage apex predator the world has ever seen after all.
Those violent and predatory sexual instincts are never very far from the surface in certain people even though the vast majority of us are good.

Please stop putting yourself as one of the good ones. You talk disgustedly about women and turn everything they say into something suggestive, you pester them via PM and turn nasty when they reject you, you even put disgusting photos on here that degrade women. Just because you do not actually rape women it does not mean you are one of the good guys!

Who the hell are you - you anonymous coward?

You are just repeating made up shit yet again from some of the scumbags on Dogs from years ago who are true predators (like Dean) or sexual hypocrites (like Hobbit) yet seem to have simpering women/men following them around probably because they are frightened.

I have never pestered anyone.

Degrade women?

That photo degraded Corbyn as well and was a joke.

I don't for one second believe you are the snowflake you pretend to be, all of this faux outrage is ludicrous.

Why not join up here so we can discuss things on even terms?

But you won't you will hide away spouting shit anonymously hoping that some of it will stick.

-- Edited by John Doe on Saturday 13th of March 2021 05:30:36 PM

Date: Mar 13 7:27 PM, 2021

Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Does anyone think the death of Sarah Everard is going to be presented as a George Floyd moment for social change in Britain in the same way Premier League Footballers are still taking the knee as some symbolic move to end white on black racism in England?
And if it does...what form of symbolic move do you think would be appropriate.

The taking the knee was a something an American Footballer did to denounce the American anthem and hence denounce American white culture for its white on black racism.

I don't know whether there is a similar movement started by women to denounce British culture for its white men on women abuse. Maybe the Minister for Women and Equalities, Liz Truss, could come up with something. She is paid through taxpayers monies to sort these issues out and has a whole department working for her.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
I don't agree.
To me there is a huge difference between women being chased around to fast music, where incidentally the man usually ends up being the butt of the joke, to calling women derogatory sexist names, which is almost always said in either a nasty or lascivious way.
the post was about someone turning everything into innuendo, you called that benny hill humour. I don't class that as benny hill humour

you are having a serious discussion on a forum and someone keeps trying to turn it into innuendo, very annoying, imagine being alone somewhere with a man who did the same, cant you not see how that would feel intimidating? people have asked him to stop and he doesn't which shows disrespect for those women.

We were having a serious discussion which got sidetracked when you decided to join in with some allegations about another poster.

Obviously you have had dealings elsewhere, because as I said ...NO ONE on this forum has been pestered by unwanted pm's and then been the victim of nastiness when they haven't been welcomed.

Innuendo and demeaning sexist talking down to a woman are two separate things. Dont confuse the two.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Does anyone think the death of Sarah Everard is going to be presented as a George Floyd moment for social change in Britain in the same way Premier League Footballers are still taking the knee as some symbolic move to end white on black racism in England?
And if it does...what form of symbolic move do you think would be appropriate.
The taking the knee was a something an American Footballer did to denounce the American anthem and hence denounce American white culture for its white on black racism.

I don't know whether there is a similar movement started by women to denounce British culture for its white men on women abuse. Maybe the Minister for Women and Equalities, Liz Truss, could come up with something. She is paid through taxpayers monies to sort these issues out and has a whole department working for her.

I know the origin of 'taking the knee'.

Women who are now campaigning and demanding the right to feel safe walking the roads has nothing to do with colour. Black and white women are victims of sexual predators....of varying shades.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

John Doe wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
John Doe wrote:
Perhaps nothing can ever be done - we evolved into the most savage apex predator the world has ever seen after all.
Those violent and predatory sexual instincts are never very far from the surface in certain people even though the vast majority of us are good.

Please stop putting yourself as one of the good ones. You talk disgustedly about women and turn everything they say into something suggestive, you pester them via PM and turn nasty when they reject you, you even put disgusting photos on here that degrade women. Just because you do not actually rape women it does not mean you are one of the good guys!
Who the hell are you - you anonymous coward?
You are just repeating made up shit yet again from some of the scumbags on Dogs from years ago who are true predators (like Dean) or sexual hypocrites (like Hobbit) yet seem to have simpering women/men following them around probably because they are frightened.
I have never pestered anyone.
Degrade women?
That photo degraded Corbyn as well and was a joke.
I don't for one second believe you are the snowflake you pretend to be, all of this faux outrage is ludicrous.
Why not join up here so we can discuss things on even terms?
But you won't you will hide away spouting shit anonymously hoping that some of it will stick.

-- Edited by John Doe on Saturday 13th of March 2021 05:30:36 PM

You have never pestered any woman on this forum as far as I know, if you had I am sure either me or Digger would know about it.

Disregarding what anon guest hiding behind a proxy has said.....You and others on other forums do use sexually degrading language towards some women (and you know my feelings about it because I have told you several times)

My point about this is, speaking about women like that can have a knock on effect to disrespect women and it then perpetuates the belief that women are somehow lesser,

We then get situations where, as has been said....every woman can tell of the times they have been sexually degraded, abused, groped etc etc.

If women are ever to feel safe in situations where men take for granted they are safe....it has to start from the bottom and work it's way up.

-- Edited by Syl on Saturday 13th of March 2021 07:52:15 PM

Date: Mar 13 7:55 PM, 2021

Intersectionality was a response of black women to white women misrepresenting what black women wanted when the feminist movement expanded to include them.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

'Reclaim the streets ' is a new campaign started in response to Sarah Everards murder.

John Doe · Still Here!

Syl wrote:
'Reclaim the streets ' is a new campaign started in response to Sarah Everards murder.

With a third COVID wave now in full swing again in Europe I'm not sure if illegal mass demonstrations/vigils are the way to go about things.

Date: Mar 14 11:02 AM, 2021

John Doe wrote:
Syl wrote:
John Doe wrote:
Innocent blokes in the wee hours get attacked all the time as well due to macho bullshit and gang mentality.
I should know and have the scars to prove it 'did you spill my pint or are you looking at my bird?' etc.
It was a terrible crime but portraying all men as violent sexual predators is a vast overreaction much like BLM here (the US might be different although burning down your own city hardly helps matters).
Perhaps giving such offenders a longer time in jail would be more of a deterrent?
Our justice system is so heavily weighted against the victims it's ludicrous.
Yes innocent men get attacked, but that's not the subject here.
We are talking of the way women have been programmed to be afraid of being out alone at night for fear of sexual abuse by males.

I doubt many men are afraid of going out at night because they fear sexual female attack.

Romance is dead.

-- Edited by John Doe on Friday 12th of March 2021 11:22:05 PM

Romance is far from dead around here.

Date: Mar 14 11:58 AM, 2021

Syl wrote:
'Reclaim the streets ' is a new campaign started in response to Sarah Everards murder.

This sounds like a positive thing.

I haven't followed the Sarah Everard story, I have just seen the headlines on the BBC and that this has sparked off discussion. I would be interested in knowing if the Everard murder was a random occurrence or whether the person that killed her knew her. It is good to have campaigns such as "Reclaim the Streets" but it is also important to have some research on these types of attacks and to publicise the results of that research in order to remove some of the guesswork and speculation.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
'Reclaim the streets ' is a new campaign started in response to Sarah Everards murder.
This sounds like a positive thing.
I haven't followed the Sarah Everard story, I have just seen the headlines on the BBC and that this has sparked off discussion. I would be interested in knowing if the Everard murder was a random occurrence or whether the person that killed her knew her. It is good to have campaigns such as "Reclaim the Streets" but it is also important to have some research on these types of attacks and to publicise the results of that research in order to remove some of the guesswork and speculation.

From what has been written I doubt they knew each other. The police are treating it as a 'stranger attack'.

It has been confirmed that 3 days before he is alleged to have kidnapped and murdered Sarah, an allegation was made against serving copper Wayne Couzens that he had exposed himself in front of a woman at a fast food restaurant, the incident was caught on camera and passed on to the Met police.

For some reason he was allowed to continue to work. He finished his shift an hour or so before Sarah went missing.

Reclaim the Streets is a positive thing to have come from this, unfortunate that they are gathering when there is a lockdown.

Police seem to have handled the dispersing of the vigil all wrong now.

Magica · Go Outside

Thousands of women have been attacked, gone missing and murdered on the streets over the years. Why are they doing this now.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
'Reclaim the streets ' is a new campaign started in response to Sarah Everards murder.
This sounds like a positive thing.
I haven't followed the Sarah Everard story, I have just seen the headlines on the BBC and that this has sparked off discussion. I would be interested in knowing if the Everard murder was a random occurrence or whether the person that killed her knew her. It is good to have campaigns such as "Reclaim the Streets" but it is also important to have some research on these types of attacks and to publicise the results of that research in order to remove some of the guesswork and speculation.
From what has been written I doubt they knew each other. The police are treating it as a 'stranger attack'.
It has been confirmed that 3 days before he is alleged to have kidnapped and murdered Sarah, an allegation was made against serving copper Wayne Couzens that he had exposed himself in front of a woman at a fast food restaurant, the incident was caught on camera and passed on to the Met police.
For some reason he was allowed to continue to work. He finished his shift an hour or so before Sarah went missing.
Reclaim the Streets is a positive thing to have come from this, unfortunate that they are gathering when there is a lockdown.
Police seem to have handled the dispersing of the vigil all wrong now.

I'm sure he knew her. I did read they worked together but perhaps that's misinformation.