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Vita · Know It All

RE: How did a woman lie dead in her home for TWO AND A HALF YEARS without a single person noticing?

Vita · Know It All

Syl wrote:
Magica wrote:
Oh Syl so sad. How do these people end up so alone. I

When my nan was in a home my dad visited her all the time. I went often aswell. When he died it was just me. I went lots, I loved her.
Despite the fact she had a daughter, she never visited her because she lived an hours drive away.

I went every day, my OH came with me, our son went a lot....my sister didn't visit her once.

Some people have no thought, care or love for their parents.

Sounds like my mother's sister but when my Gran died she was round her house like a vulture.

Took my Gran's jewellery, purse, anything that wasn't nailed down.

My mum doesn't have anything to do with her anymore, not because of that but because of the way she behaved when my mum had cancer.

Good job my mum wasn't relying on her for a kidney, she was up shit creek if she was. 🙄

-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 15th of March 2022 07:54:28 AM

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

I think many families have a vulture or two hovering in the background waiting their opportunity.

Digger · Admin

Years ago, during the Falklands War, my mum wrote to a soldier who had no family. A pen friend. I think a call went out for those who had no one to write to them. He was only young but loved her letters. She was witty and young at heart and it must have felt good to have someone who cared enough to write letters nobody else would.

Vita · Know It All

Syl wrote:
I think many families have a vulture or two hovering in the background waiting their opportunity.

The worst thing is she took all the photos and kept "Forgetting" to give my mum some.

So all the one's of my mum and her brother and me and my brother and cousins are gone now.

Her brother can't help cause they fell out out more than 30 years ago over a children's birthday party of all things.

Vita · Know It All

Digger wrote:
Years ago, during the Falklands War, my mum wrote to a soldier who had no family. A pen friend. I think a call went out for those who had no one to write to them. He was only young but loved her letters. She was witty and young at heart and it must have felt good to have someone who cared enough to write letters nobody else would.

My mum visited a lady years ago that was on her own.

Well she had two son's but they had moved a way and she didn't see them.

My mum had to be vetted by social services first and then during the first visit the woman said her husband had worked in one of the Steelworks and my mum said so did my husband.

So my mum mentioned it to my dad and he said "Bun?" that was his nickname, he was a lovely man.

So my dad went as well and shared stories about her husband and things that had happened during the time they worked together.

It made her really happy.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Vita wrote:
Syl wrote:
I think many families have a vulture or two hovering in the background waiting their opportunity.
The worst thing is she took all the photos and kept "Forgetting" to give my mum some.
So all the one's of my mum and her brother and me and my brother and cousins are gone now.
Her brother can't help cause they fell out out more than 30 years ago over a children's birthday party of all things.

That's a shame.

It's so easy to get copies made....no one should be deprived of family photos.

Vita · Know It All

The only known photo of this lady has been published today, her passport photo.

The inquest takes place next week and i hope the police officers who went to her house a year after she died to do a welfare check and told a neighbour that Sheila Soloane was 'Safe and well' get asked why they told barefaced lies.

The Met have decided not to told an inquiry into it.

Shelia had two funerals, the one in the UK was attended by two people but at least her family in South Africa gave her a decent funeral.

Her remains were sent there after the British service, well if you can call it that.

On one side sat her brother Victor (Who's a convicted murderer) from who she was estranged and a man from Peabody Housing charity.

Picture of medical secretary who lay dead in her London flat for two-and-a-half years is revealed | Daily Mail Online

-- Edited by Vita on Saturday 16th of July 2022 05:47:12 AM

Digger · Admin

It's disgusting that this should happen today. The neighbour beneath her flat heard footsteps long after she was dead, which means that someone must have broken into her flat via the window which had scaffolding outside. For this to happen, the window must have been broken but so far the police have not released this info.

Vita · Know It All

Digger wrote:
It's disgusting that this should happen today. The neighbour beneath her flat heard footsteps long after she was dead, which means that someone must have broken into her flat via the window which had scaffolding outside. For this to happen, the window must have been broken but so far the police have not released this info.

It's incredibly sad and the balloons? Was she celebrating her birthday on her own? And what about the damn postman, did you see the amount of unclaimed post in that link, maybe the inquest will answer some of this but I don't hold out much hope.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

It's heartbreaking. I cried when I read this, the first time, and again now.

And what an indictment of society in this country, 2022.

Magica · Go Outside

How could the postman keep shoving letters in her post box, surely he could have reported it. Poor lady, died alone, so sad.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
It's heartbreaking. I cried when I read this, the first time, and again now.

And what an indictment of society in this country, 2022.

200 people turned up for her funeral in South Africa. Her neighbours here wanted to attend her UK funeral service but the bloody housing association said her brother didn't want anyone else there.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Magica wrote:
How could the postman keep shoving letters in her post box, surely he could have reported it. Poor lady, died alone, so sad.

The birthday balloons got me.

Did she celebrate her birthday alone before she died?

Did no one care about her? How could a person not be missed by anyone for over 2 year? It's just so sad.

Magica · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
Magica wrote:
How could the postman keep shoving letters in her post box, surely he could have reported it. Poor lady, died alone, so sad.
The birthday balloons got me.
Did she celebrate her birthday alone before she died?
Did no one care about her? How could a person not be missed by anyone for over 2 year? It's just so sad.

Yes Syl, I wondered that. Maybe she killed herself, or someone killed her. I hope we find out in the future. Poor woman.

-- Edited by Magica on Sunday 17th of July 2022 06:38:47 PM

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

The footsteps people heard in her apartment, months after she was supposedly dead, sound odd.
Did someone break in? Why did the smell or sight of a months old dead body not alert them, why didn't they call the police, even anonymously?
Surely even the lowest of life couldn't steal from a woman when her corpse had been left undiscovered for so long.

Magica · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
The footsteps people heard in her apartment, months after she was supposedly dead, sound odd.
Did someone break in? Why did the smell or sight of a months old dead body not alert them, why didn't they call the police, even anonymously?
Surely even the lowest of life couldn't steal from a woman when her corpse had been left undiscovered for so long.

Maybe it was the murderer. Lived there for a bit with the dead woman. If that's the case they are a real nutter.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

It's a horrible event, made even worse by the fact that someone must have known that poor woman was rotting away alone.

I can't think of a sadder end to a persons life.

Magica · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
It's a horrible event, made even worse by the fact that someone must have known that poor woman was rotting away alone.

I can't think of a sadder end to a persons life.

Me too Syl. 😢