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Wedding Bells Or Hells Bells...

Vita · Know It All

Outdated traditions...

Years ago it was the done thing but many women no longer want to take their husband's surname and are opting to keep their own or going for a "Double Barrel" surname or even joining the surnames and having something unique.

Jones, Smith could be Joith

Personally for me it would depend on the surname...

Garden or House and I would sound like an address.

Do you think some traditions are worth keeping?

-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 21st of June 2022 06:42:35 AM

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.

Maddog · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.

It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉

Which proves the point.

Magica · Go Outside

Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
It's not like y'all ever followed it anyway. 😉

Vita · Know It All

The Guest's...

One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.

Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.

Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.

My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.

Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.

After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.

Do you think weddings are a place for children?

Maddog · Go Outside

Vita wrote:
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?

My daughters sorta had a no kid policy for their weddings.

But those were first (and hopefully last) weddings.

Second weddings (and many first) often blend families that already have kids, so it's a bit different affair.

Vita · Know It All

Maddog wrote:
Vita wrote:
The Guest's...
One problem the bride and groom have is whether or not they should invite small guests or children as they're more commonly known.
Some people would rather have a relaxing day without then and others don't think it's right that they're left out of the celebrations.
Apparently every child in "The two towns" were at my parents wedding and my mum said she was talked into inviting all of them by my Granny.
My mum said it was a nightmare and funnily enough when one of my dad's other brother's got married the following year, they imposed a "No children" rule.
Which led to a fall out with one of their sister's because she thought her five children should be invited.
After the wild scenes at my parents reception, most people were happy with the no children rule.
Do you think weddings are a place for children?
My daughters sorta had a no kid policy for their weddings.

But those were first (and hopefully last) weddings.

Second weddings (and many first) often blend families that already have kids, so it's a bit different affair.

That's true Madders.

Of course you could get round the problem and have a long engagement until the child/children are adults.

My brother's Fiancee has a daughter, she was at school when they met and now she's working.

I was hoping to be a bridesmaid, I'll be going up the aisle with a zimmer at this rate.

Vita · Know It All

Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.

We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.

I was two...

My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.

However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!

My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂

Magica · Go Outside

Vita wrote:
Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.

We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.

I was two...

My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.

However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!

My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂

I can just picture that

Date: Jun 23 5:44 PM, 2022

Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.

Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.

That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.

Digger · Admin

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.

Are you sorting yourself out? I hope so. Particularly for the person who is trying so hard to help you.

Magica · Go Outside

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
I certainly think the vow, to 'obey' in the traditional marriage ceremony should be scrapped...it's very demeaning towards women.
Indeed. Until my father's sudden death Mam was anything but and out of the two she was the stronger (and that's fucking saying something) - they argued constantly and brutally every single day for 53 years - but they loved each other.
That's marriage - not celebrity shite where 'love' is just the latest cheap fuck to parade amongst the tabloids.

Hey, take care JD x

Vita · Know It All

Magica wrote:
Vita wrote:
Me and my brother were at my mum's sister's wedding but we were the only children there.

We were the only grandchildren on her side at the time and there weren't any on his side.

I was two...

My mum told me there would be music and dancing and I loved dancing.

However when the organist in the church started playing, I thought it was boogie time!!

My mum had to keep a grip of my arse for the entire service to stop me "Getting on down!!" 😂
I can just picture that

There's a cine video of that wedding Mags.

You see me and my brother arriving at the church, he's six and I'm two.

Then there's me dancing with my Granda at the reception, it's lovely to watch.

Vita · Know It All

Presents...

Most couples live together before they get married these days so the problem is...what to do about presents.

Do they ask for money and that leaves the guests with the problem of how much.

Too little, a tight arse. Too much, a show off.

A gift list, do you think that's a bit cheeky or do you just buy/ give what you want.

Vita · Know It All

By the way...

Do you have a show of presents in England?

A week or so before the wedding here the female guest's are invited to a night of wine and nibbles at the bride's house to admire the gifts.

Vita · Know It All

My parents signing the register. There's a problem with this photo that my mother has hated all her married life. Nobody bothered to move the Minister's ashtray out the way before it was tooken. 😂

-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 28th of June 2022 09:49:45 AM

Digger · Admin

Vita wrote:
My parents signing the register. There's a problem with this photo that my mother has hated all her married life. Nobody bothered to move the Minister's ashtray out the way before it was tooken. 😂

-- Edited by Vita on Tuesday 28th of June 2022 09:49:45 AM

Your dad has a look of George Harrison!

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

I can see the George Harrison resemblance too.
That's a lovely pic Vita, though I agree with your mum about the ashtray.