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Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

RE: Do you let other peoples casual ignorance bother you?

Vam · Getting Gobby

Syl wrote:
Vam wrote:
SF wrote:
Vam wrote:
How long have you got?

When I’m queuing at a supermarket checkout, with just one or two items in my hands, and the person in front of me is unloading a heavily loaded trolley, but refuses to let me quickly go ahead and pay first.
When a gaggle of idiots and their trolleys congregate to chat, and block supermarket aisles.
Some people seem totally oblivious to the people that share this planet with them.
I don’t have a loud voice, but my voice does carry. So I sometimes get a bit sweary (in Italian 😂), and then I smile at the suspicious glares I get in return.
You seem highly strung. What’s the big rush? Not like you’ve got a job to go to sweetheart. Calm down a bit xxx
Nah. I’m all moon crystals and zen, me.
You need to evict me from inside your head…sweetheart
(@ Syl or Diggs… is there a Twat/Dickhead Alert option here?)

Sadly no...I find sitting on my hands, or a large glass of something chilled, dampens the urge to respond to the odd trolling twat.

Skeezy seems to be on a mission.

But you’re right. I’ll stop swatting it away.

Maddog · Go Outside

Vam wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I have seen this debate elsewhere, where people who say a 'you are welcome' or a 'thank you', in response to not being thanked for their politeness, are in fact the entitled ones.
I think a quiet 'You are welcome', is very acceptable to some entitled twit who doesn't acknowledge politeness...I bet they would notice if the door you were holding smacked them in the face.

Other ignorant things people do or dont do.

Car drivers not acknowledging you have given way to them.
People who don't put a divider up on a shopping conveyor belt when they have finished piling on their shopping (that doesn't bother me)
Parents who allow kids to kick the back of your seat. (especially on planes
I believe the person on the back should place the divider on the belt..
It makes sense for the person who's shopping has just been loaded onto the conveyor belt to place the divider there...that's what I always do.
I can't say it bothers me if the person in front doesn't....it's not anything to get upset about.
What if no one is behind you?

Do you still put the divider behind your stuff?
I do Someone’s bound to soon appear behind me. Just a courtesy, really

Or a territorial flex. 😉

I think about half the time people don't put it up if no one is behind them. If someone does show up, the new person can use the divider.

I may go crazy at times and not even use a divider when someone is already ahead of me. I'm a rebel like that..

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Maddog wrote:
Vam wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I have seen this debate elsewhere, where people who say a 'you are welcome' or a 'thank you', in response to not being thanked for their politeness, are in fact the entitled ones.
I think a quiet 'You are welcome', is very acceptable to some entitled twit who doesn't acknowledge politeness...I bet they would notice if the door you were holding smacked them in the face.

ItOther ignorant things people do or dont do.

Car drivers not acknowledging you have given way to them.
People who don't put a divider up on a shopping conveyor belt when they have finished piling on their shopping (that doesn't bother me)
Parents who allow kids to kick the back of your seat. (especially on planes
I believe the person on the back should place the divider on the belt..
It makes sense for the person who's shopping has just been loaded onto the conveyor belt to place the divider there...that's what I always do.
I can't say it bothers me if the person in front doesn't....it's not anything to get upset about.
What if no one is behind you?

Do you still put the divider behind your stuff?
I do Someone’s bound to soon appear behind me. Just a courtesy, really
Or a territorial flex. 😉

I think about half the time people don't put it up if no one is behind them. If someone does show up, the new person can use the divider.

I may go crazy at times and not even use a divider when someone is already ahead of me. I'm a rebel like that..

It would serve you right if your shopping got mixed up.

Vam · Getting Gobby

@ MD … territorial shmeritorial!

How about common sense? More often than not, the dividers are all skooshed up near the cashier. So it makes sense for someone queuing closer to the cashier pick one up and place it for the customer behind them. Like I said, it’s just a courtesy.

-- Edited by Vam on Sunday 13th of April 2025 08:04:41 PM

Maddog · Go Outside

Vam wrote:
@ MD … territorial shmeritorial!
How about common sense? More often than not, the dividers are all skooshed up near the cashier. So it makes sense for someone queuing closer to the cashier pick one up and place it for the customer behind them. Like I said, it’s just a courtesy.

-- Edited by Vam on Sunday 13th of April 2025 08:04:41 PM

Ours are in a row, so there's always one at the back where you start loading

Maddog · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Vam wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
I have seen this debate elsewhere, where people who say a 'you are welcome' or a 'thank you', in response to not being thanked for their politeness, are in fact the entitled ones.
I think a quiet 'You are welcome', is very acceptable to some entitled twit who doesn't acknowledge politeness...I bet they would notice if the door you were holding smacked them in the face.

ItOther ignorant things people do or dont do.

Car drivers not acknowledging you have given way to them.
People who don't put a divider up on a shopping conveyor belt when they have finished piling on their shopping (that doesn't bother me)
Parents who allow kids to kick the back of your seat. (especially on planes
I believe the person on the back should place the divider on the belt..
It makes sense for the person who's shopping has just been loaded onto the conveyor belt to place the divider there...that's what I always do.
I can't say it bothers me if the person in front doesn't....it's not anything to get upset about.
What if no one is behind you?

Do you still put the divider behind your stuff?
I do Someone’s bound to soon appear behind me. Just a courtesy, really
Or a territorial flex. 😉

I think about half the time people don't put it up if no one is behind them. If someone does show up, the new person can use the divider.

I may go crazy at times and not even use a divider when someone is already ahead of me. I'm a rebel like that..
It would serve you right if your shopping got mixed up.

I may actually bring home something new and interesting. Think how exciting it would be to get a surprise when you unpack at home.

Vam · Getting Gobby

Maddog wrote:
Vam wrote:
@ MD … territorial shmeritorial!
How about common sense? More often than not, the dividers are all skooshed up near the cashier. So it makes sense for someone queuing closer to the cashier pick one up and place it for the customer behind them. Like I said, it’s just a courtesy.

-- Edited by Vam on Sunday 13th of April 2025 08:04:41 PM
Ours are in a row, so there's always one at the back where you start loading

Ah okay…that’s great.

Clearly, I’m living in a third world country 😂

Maddog · Go Outside

Vam wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Vam wrote:
@ MD … territorial shmeritorial!
How about common sense? More often than not, the dividers are all skooshed up near the cashier. So it makes sense for someone queuing closer to the cashier pick one up and place it for the customer behind them. Like I said, it’s just a courtesy.

-- Edited by Vam on Sunday 13th of April 2025 08:04:41 PM
Ours are in a row, so there's always one at the back where you start loading
Ah okay…that’s great.
Clearly, I’m living in a third world country 😂

Possibly. I'm surprised you even have grocery stores.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
I may go crazy at times and not even use a divider when someone is already ahead of me. I'm a rebel like that..

It would serve you right if your shopping got mixed up.

I may actually bring home something new and interesting. Think how exciting it would be to get a surprise when you unpack at home.

If it's that sort of excitement you are looking for, have your grocery delivered rather than going to the shop yourself.

Some of the replacements I got were mind boggling.

Maddog · Go Outside

Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
Syl wrote:
Maddog wrote:
I may go crazy at times and not even use a divider when someone is already ahead of me. I'm a rebel like that..
It would serve you right if your shopping got mixed up.
I may actually bring home something new and interesting. Think how exciting it would be to get a surprise when you unpack at home.
If it's that sort of excitement you are looking for, have your grocery delivered rather than going to the shop yourself.
Some of the replacements I got were mind boggling.

I never thought of that..

Imagine having a bunch of odd items and trying to make a meal. It could be a game show..

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Red Okktober wrote:
Two have stuck with me:

1. When I first left home at 19 I moved into a rough council estate with a couple of mates. One of them brought home a stray kitten that he had found wandering in the stairwell. I'm not a fan so was delighted when I saw a missing kitten poster a few days later. I took the kitten down, knocked at the door and this woman opened it - she could have been the person Waynetta Slob was based on - she snatched the kitten off me, slapped it around the arse and said 'where the fuck have you been?' to it, and shut the door without a word to me.

2. Out jogging one day, I turned into a side street and saw this quite large woman trying to run. I looked over my shoulder and saw a bus coming - she was obviously trying to make it to the bus stop about 100 yards away. So I sprinted past her and made it to the stop at the same time the bus did. The woman was still some way off, so I put my foot on the platform to stop the doors closing and told the driver that someone was coming along. She was huffing and puffing but eventually made it. She said nothing, no smile, no nod of appreciation, nothing, and just got on the bus
That's downright ignorant....makes not saying 'thanks' when someone has held the door for them small fry.

Never mind the door! What about the kitten?

Date: Apr 14 1:29 PM, 2025

Red, both of your examples show how rude some ppl can be but the woman with the cat not acknowledging you let alone not thanking you is just bizarre! There are plenty of polite ppl about also thankfully. When I hold the door for someone they nearly always say thankyou. I don't know why but ppl living in big cities tend to be more indifferent and less responsive in general (in my albeit limited experience) and therefore less likely to say anything if someone holds a door for them.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

I think, flights, where the person behind is allowing their kid to kick the back of your seat, or someone in front lowers theirs to the relax position when it's a package flight and space is limited....ignorant and rude.

Once I was sat in front of a kicking kid, I turned round a couple of times, mother said nothing. I even swapped places with OH, the kid kept kicking, eventually my husband asked the mother to stop her child kicking the back of his seat.
She took umbrage, because obviously she was stupid and entitled. It turned out she was with about 10 others, and they spent the rest of the flight loudly complaining about how rude we were.

Vam · Getting Gobby

Syl wrote:
I think, flights, where the person behind is allowing their kid to kick the back of your seat, or someone in front lowers theirs to the relax position when it's a package flight and space is limited....ignorant and rude.

Once I was sat in front of a kicking kid, I turned round a couple of times, mother said nothing. I even swapped places with OH, the kid kept kicking, eventually my husband asked the mother to stop her child kicking the back of his seat.
She took umbrage, because obviously she was stupid and entitled. It turned out she was with about 10 others, and they spent the rest of the flight loudly complaining about how rude we were.

I’m convinced some of these grungy happy-clappy earth mothers replicate themselves, with the sole purpose of foisting their feral brats onto everyone else.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Vam wrote:
Syl wrote:
I think, flights, where the person behind is allowing their kid to kick the back of your seat, or someone in front lowers theirs to the relax position when it's a package flight and space is limited....ignorant and rude.

Once I was sat in front of a kicking kid, I turned round a couple of times, mother said nothing. I even swapped places with OH, the kid kept kicking, eventually my husband asked the mother to stop her child kicking the back of his seat.
She took umbrage, because obviously she was stupid and entitled. It turned out she was with about 10 others, and they spent the rest of the flight loudly complaining about how rude we were.
I’m convinced some of these grungy happy-clappy earth mothers replicate themselves, with the sole purpose of foisting their feral brats onto everyone else.

They certainly do.

I never make eye contact with other people's kids when I am in an enclosed space where I can't' escape. But for some reason, kids will choose me to mither, and for some reason, it's the kids who belong to the mothers who think their kids are a gift to the world and I am the chosen one.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Neighbours...the bane of so many peoples lives.
We have had some great ones, some nice ones, and some awful ones.

Our lovely next door neighbours moved a couple of years ago, the new young family that bought the house are less than neighbourly.
It started off with a full summer of renovations. Unfortunately, his father was doing them, I think he is a builder by trade..under the Cowboy label.

They are now halfway through the renovations...the next stage will probably start as soon as the summer arrives, preventing us from using our garden in peace, which is our own little sanctuary.

Minor irritations...they will drive onto their drive (which is now a mass of dusty rubble) and leave their bins which have been emptied in the road, often blocking our own drive.
Happened again this morning, but the biggest shock there, is the binmen are actually working on Good Friday.