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Magica · Go Outside

RE: Life changing events.

Date: May 2 6:20 AM, 2025

Okay okay, I meant it jokingly but it's clearly misfired!

Vam · Musing at the Chaos

🫩 Soooo…that went well.

@ the Anony…maybe stop and think — and then think again — before you do the captcha thingy. And then ask yourself: is my post gonna be as appreciated as a fart in a crowded elevator?

Date: May 2 10:08 AM, 2025

I hope this thread was made in jest Jack and you haven't really gathered your skirts and flounced for some reason. Digger said she had experienced 'weird shit' and i was wondering if anyone had experiened something in their life they couldn't quite explain, as if fate was giving you a helping hand. There is only 1 thing that has happened to me that cannot be explained rationally but it made me realise I had to leave a toxic situation and move on. If anything has happened to someone that they can't explain no matter how trivial it may seem to them it would be interesting to know.

Digger · Admin

Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Red Okktober wrote:
Even something like meeting your partner(s) is down to a series of choices. 'why did I choose to go that club that night' 'why did I shop in Tescos and not Sainsburys that fateful day' 'why did I holiday in Spain when I should have to Italy with my other mates'. Do something slightly different and your whole life could have turned out either better or worse.

When I was younger and my football team had a goal disallowed, I used to tag it on to the final score and think 'bollocks we would have won without that goal being disallowed' but of course the whole game is played out differently when the other team were given a free kick because your player was offside.

-- Edited by Red Okktober on Thursday 1st of May 2025 01:44:14 PM
I met my partner because my then boyfriend who worked in a nightclub, for some reason, couldn't pick me up from the nightclub I worked in.
I rang a cab.
You slag!

It woz the curtain's wot did it

Digger · Admin

Magica wrote:
Syl wrote:
Magica wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Red Okktober wrote:
Even something like meeting your partner(s) is down to a series of choices. 'why did I choose to go that club that night' 'why did I shop in Tescos and not Sainsburys that fateful day' 'why did I holiday in Spain when I should have to Italy with my other mates'. Do something slightly different and your whole life could have turned out either better or worse.

When I was younger and my football team had a goal disallowed, I used to tag it on to the final score and think 'bollocks we would have won without that goal being disallowed' but of course the whole game is played out differently when the other team were given a free kick because your player was offside.

-- Edited by Red Okktober on Thursday 1st of May 2025 01:44:14 PM
I met my partner because my then boyfriend who worked in a nightclub, for some reason, couldn't pick me up from the nightclub I worked in.
I rang a cab.
You slag!
Why would you say that?
Just pulling your leg, I probably should have added some appropriate smiley but I don't know which one means just kidding.
Calling Syl a slag is not funny, or pulling her leg, it's downright nasty and insulting!
Yep, a very odd remark.

Bloody abusive remark Syl. 😡

I thought it was funny

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Digger wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Syl wrote:
Red Okktober wrote:
Even something like meeting your partner(s) is down to a series of choices. 'why did I choose to go that club that night' 'why did I shop in Tescos and not Sainsburys that fateful day' 'why did I holiday in Spain when I should have to Italy with my other mates'. Do something slightly different and your whole life could have turned out either better or worse.

When I was younger and my football team had a goal disallowed, I used to tag it on to the final score and think 'bollocks we would have won without that goal being disallowed' but of course the whole game is played out differently when the other team were given a free kick because your player was offside.

-- Edited by Red Okktober on Thursday 1st of May 2025 01:44:14 PM
I met my partner because my then boyfriend who worked in a nightclub, for some reason, couldn't pick me up from the nightclub I worked in.
I rang a cab.
You slag!

It woz the curtain's wot did it

Let it go, dear....

Back on track, I still have no idea what this thread is about, though it's brought out some thoughtful responses.

Jack started it, I hope he is OK.

Digger · Admin

I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.

Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.

Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.
Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.
Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,

More life changing for the people left alive, I suspect.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.
Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.
Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,
More life changing for the people left alive, I suspect.

Exactly, life changing, not ending.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.
Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.
Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,
More life changing for the people left alive, I suspect.
Exactly, life changing, not ending.

Talking of life changing events. That view from your patio? What would you do if that field got built on? New housing estate?

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.
Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.
Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,
More life changing for the people left alive, I suspect.
Exactly, life changing, not ending.
Talking of life changing events. That view from your patio? What would you do if that field got built on? New housing estate?

Move.

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
Digger wrote:
I think life changing events can be a string of coincidences that lead you to where you need to be. I've had to negotiate several relationships to get to where I am today, and each one took me a step nearer to where I needed to be emotionally and spiritually. I look back and wonder why those lessons were so painful but after all this time I can look back and see those lessons more clearly. The overall lesson was strength, independence and forgiveness. I've finally learned them all.
Alternatively, it can often be something completely out of your control.
Accidents, illnesses, deaths, all life changing, and they can happen in a split second,
More life changing for the people left alive, I suspect.
Exactly, life changing, not ending.
Talking of life changing events. That view from your patio? What would you do if that field got built on? New housing estate?
Move.

They cut a tree down at the back of our garden a few weeks ago. It was growing on a private road that is owned by the housing association and it backs onto our property. There were robins nesting in the tree and after it was gone they were fluttering around all agitated. Why the fuck they chose to do this in the nesting season beats me. By the Trafford Centre there's this huge tract of land that's been wild for hundreds of years and they're building a whole housing estate with a nursing home on it in the most monstrous architecture you can imagine. You could walk on there years ago and see so many species of wildlife, all gone now under fucking concrete.

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

That's horrible cutting down trees where birds are nesting. We have an ivy covered wall where robins nest every year, the thought of destroying their nests is unthinkable

I feel for you having your views taken away....it would break my heart.

Re my avi, the people who own the land, they certainly won't sell. Their family has owned the farms for generations.... whether or not our bent council could ever get compulsory orders to take the land...I have no idea. We have lived here 44 years, the peace and views were, and still are the main attraction.

-- Edited by Syl on Friday 2nd of May 2025 12:35:18 PM

Magica · Go Outside

My daughter had to move. She had fields behind, said it was going to be a school. Oh no, it was a massive housing estate. 😞

Digger · Admin

Syl wrote:
That's horrible cutting down trees where birds are nesting. We have an ivy covered wall where robins nest every year, the thought of destroying their nests is unthinkable
I feel for you having your views taken away....it would break my heart.
Re my avi, the people who own the land, they certainly won't sell. Their family has owned the farms for generations.... whether or not our bent council could ever get compulsory orders to take the land...I have no idea. We have lived here 44 years, the peace and views were, and still are the main attraction.

-- Edited by Syl on Friday 2nd of May 2025 12:35:18 PM

You're very lucky. Our back garden is one whole concrete driveway which sounds horrible but actually we have pots of shrubs and bags of potatoes growing along with a thick hedge to one side and loads of greenery at the other side of the gate. Lots of birds and bats. I also have a greenhouse which is great.

-- Edited by Digger on Friday 2nd of May 2025 04:09:02 PM

Syl · FIRM BUT FAIR.

Digger wrote:
Syl wrote:
That's horrible cutting down trees where birds are nesting. We have an ivy covered wall where robins nest every year, the thought of destroying their nests is unthinkable
I feel for you having your views taken away....it would break my heart.
Re my avi, the people who own the land, they certainly won't sell. Their family has owned the farms for generations.... whether or not our bent council could ever get compulsory orders to take the land...I have no idea. We have lived here 44 years, the peace and views were, and still are the main attraction.

-- Edited by Syl on Friday 2nd of May 2025 12:35:18 PM
You're very lucky. Our back garden is one whole concrete driveway which sounds horrible but actually we have pots of shrubs and bags of potatoes growing along with a thick hedge to one side and loads of greenery at the other side of the gate. Lots of birds and bats. I also have a greenhouse which is great.

-- Edited by Digger on Friday 2nd of May 2025 04:09:02 PM

You have your own private space, with lots of greenery, so it's a nice place to sit.

I would hate to have no private outside space to enjoy....it's one of the most important things to me

Vam · Musing at the Chaos

I really like Diggs’ sun trap, and Syl’s view seems so peaceful and serene 😎

Just think, without all the rain you guys get, England wouldn’t be so verdant.

Digger · Admin

Vam wrote:
I really like Diggs’ sun trap, and Syl’s view seems so peaceful and serene 😎
Just think, without all the rain you guys get, England wouldn’t be so verdant.

It is a suntrap, it gets sun all day which is why I can grow lemons, limes and oranges. I've just harvested ten limes and they were so good made into a dressing.